kissing

DrinkinV8 · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 2:38 am**

Hi out there,

I know this is a bit (fine, totally) off the topic, but I have a few questions I hope some of you can answer. I absolutely am horrid at kissing a girl. The only times I think I am successful are while I am totally wasted. When I am totally sober I know that I totally suck. What the heck is wrong with me? Do I need tongue surgery or what? Have any tips to please the lady?

I apologize if this is offensive, I truly have a problem that needs to be solved in any possible way.

tom-paris-voyager · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 12:00 pm**

nothing wrong with you, i say stay off them for a couple of years!

Tyvek · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 12:03 pm**

It may be possible you need some lessons? Go ask your mom! LOL J/K

tom-paris-voyager · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 12:04 pm**

Captain Skyline · Vice Admiral Joined: 09 Aug 2001 Posts: 6646 Location: UK

im an idiot! ive never kissed a girl

Theresa · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 3:32 pm**

Hey, don't feel bad. Neither have I!!!!

One difference, though. I don't plan too, either!

Mysotti · Captain Joined: 04 Jul 2001 Posts: 877 Location: Wisconsin

Captian Janeway · **Sat Sep 29, 2001 5:54 pm**

hey I never kissed a guy, granted I am 12

jeff934 · Commodore Joined: 22 Aug 2001 Posts: 1927

my question to you is if your a guy why is your aviator of a women if you don't mind me asking?

Theresa · **Sun Sep 30, 2001 7:05 am**

Seven of Nine · **Sun Sep 30, 2001 7:09 am**

Don't feel bad, I go to a co-ed school and I'm 15 and I still haven't had a proper boyfriend yet, never mind kissed!
I've found that all the boys at school are jerks and I've never met anyone.

Dr Tolian Soran · **Sun Sep 30, 2001 9:52 am**

If you really want tips, I'll give you tips.
(Been told, and learned from experience)

1. No teeth
2. Tilt your head slightly to the right
3. Kiss over the top lip. This is psychological and women's preference.
4. Use the good ole tongue but very gently
5. Don't suck. Fish suck. You should KISS (ie suck ; release)

These are just a few tips on how to kiss but girls like being held secure as well. Just not too secure.

Hope this is helpful, JAMES , aka Dr.Tolian Soran

Tyvek · **Sun Sep 30, 2001 9:37 pm**

INTERESTING

jeff934 · Commodore Joined: 22 Aug 2001 Posts: 1927

Fish suck?

DrinkinV8 · **Tue Oct 02, 2001 1:14 am**

lol @ jeff394.

TY doctor soran.

that was actually really helpful, not that I have had time to test out the tips yet. I got a 3rd date w/ her Fri, so boo ya

DrinkinV8 · **Tue Oct 02, 2001 1:20 am**

(I HOPE SHE DOESN:T FIND OUT I AM GETTING KISSING TIPS FROM A STAR TREK FORUM ONLINE lol). j/k, this is awesome.

The first time I kissed her I was sort of daunted because she has a really big mouth and is the same height as me, so it was more difficult than I had hoped.

I think I also need to work on my "holding her securely" and "confidence." I just can't be a friggen coward about it, which is becoming easier as I spend more time with her. I am pretty sure it is totally unsexy when the guy (ME!) is really unsure of him(my)self and is all slow-like.

She is two years younger than I and I am pretty sure she has a lot more experience than I have. This is also intimidating for me. (We are both in highschool, I am a senior and she a sophmore.)

Dr Tolian Soran · **Wed Oct 03, 2001 12:36 pm**

I have absolutely no idea what a senior or a sophmore is...
(I come from england

)
Hope the date goes well.

8 of 9 · **Thu Oct 04, 2001 4:57 pm**

It doesn't matter if u think u can't kiss. Ask the person your kissing if she thinks u suck.

Dr Tolian Soran · **Fri Oct 05, 2001 12:48 pm**

No offence 8 of 9, but when you've just met a girl,
do you really want to ask her if you suck?
You may as well throw any ideas of going out with
her goodbye. Ya know, first impressions an all.

(guy kisses gal)
"Erm...I don't mean to be rude...but am I a crap kisser?"
It wouldn't work. I don't think.

Lindley · **Thu Oct 11, 2001 8:42 pm**

Hey, I'm a COLLEGE FRESHMAN and I've never kissed a girl. So don't feel too bad, at least you're trying. In HS, far fewer people have actually done things than they let on.

Lindley · **Thu Oct 11, 2001 8:44 pm**

Soran, The HS years go: Freshman (Gr 9), Sophomore (Gr 10), Junior (Gr 11), Senior (Gr 12). College years work the same way.

Frothwith · **Thu Oct 11, 2001 11:41 pm**

I'm 20 yrs old (junior in college), and I believe I've had plenty of experience in kissing, and other aspect of sex. I've been there, done that, so maybe I can be of some service. To tell you the truth, you don't really need this. Whatever you think your "shortcomings" are, you are overreacting. No offense; I'm not trying to insult you or belittle your concerns. I'm typing this in hopes that you re-gain a little confidence in yourself. Believe me, I know what you're going through, and I understand how worrisome (maybe even scary?) the subject is at your age; I was there only 3 or 4 yrs ago.

First thing you should always remember is that she's in the same boat as you: just as concerned about her own abilities. You said you thought she had more experience than you. Even if that's true (and I'd be willing to wager a large sum that it's not as true as you think), it doen't matter. Unlike so many other things in life, you won't be a better kisser just because you're more experienced. Contrary to popular belief, prowess in this sense is NOT defined by the number of partners you've had. You also said she was two grades younger than you, so she is more than likely just as intimidated by you as you are by her.

Secondly, there's no such thing as a bad kisser, or a good kisser. Each person has their own style. Your slyle will emerge as soon as you stop worrying about how you're doing and just do it. Let instinct take over. I was about to say "do what feels right," but then I remembered nothing ever really "feels right." In years to come you'll discover that this applies to all the other aspects of sex as well. Now, I'm only speaking from my own experience: If what the movies say about finding "that one special person, with whom everything feels right and perfect" is true, I haven't found it. And I doubt you or anyone else who is still in high school is about to either. Once again, no offense, but there's just to much future ahead of you.

Which brings me to my final point; What if this one doesn't go too well, which is a possibility no matter what you do. You'd be a very lucky man if even half you're dates went well. Always remember that you've got several years ahead of you, AND there will always be other women out there. Just learn to take the ones that don't work out with a grain of salt.

Well that's all I have for tonight. I hope at least something I've said helps out a bit. If I could sum it all up, I'd say this: No matter what you think or do, just have confidence in yourself. In fact, strike the last two words of that sentence. Just have confidence.

Period.

Confidence.

Dr Tolian Soran · **Sat Oct 13, 2001 3:54 pm**

How did the date go?
I can't wait to hear about it.

jeff934 · Commodore Joined: 22 Aug 2001 Posts: 1927

The way you guys talk about kissing it scares me I cant even grasp the sucking concept.

Captain Skyline · Vice Admiral Joined: 09 Aug 2001 Posts: 6646 Location: UK