I need Advice From My Friends here.

janeway9 · **Sat May 01, 2004 11:55 pm I need Advice From My Friends here.**

A guy came into work today and we talked a little. He wants to date or something like hang out. He's really nice and I told him I was a les and all but for some reason I feel like giving this guy a chance maybe...BUT I don't know if I should or what. He knows I am feeling like givin him a chance too which is why we talked out side at work after I closed for like and hour. What would you do or what do you think I should do?

Theresa · **Sat May 01, 2004 11:57 pm**

Just hang out with him. Don't actively persue anything, and be totally up front. IMO,

Puck · The Texan Joined: 05 Jan 2004 Posts: 5596

i suppose, I mean, it couldn't hurt anything, if your thinking about it this much though, then obviously there is something goin on....plus, if it turns out there is not, then you dont really lose anything either.....

Link, the Hero of Time · **Sun May 02, 2004 12:11 am**

go with your feelings. you already know what to do in your heart, now you just have to follow it.

IntrepidIsMe · **Sun May 02, 2004 12:17 am**

Give him a chance, why the hell not?

CaptJD · Disyple Joined: 16 Sep 2003 Posts: 2699 Location: Canada!

Go with your instinct and give him a chance. IMO

tuvok_SMU · Captain Joined: 17 Mar 2004 Posts: 542 Location: Dallas

Well first be friends with him and after some time you might fall for him...

If you really think about this guy this way then it is obvious ur BI now and not les. also understand that being BI or Les. is one thing which can not be explained. Well i can not say more or explain more cause children are here neways...................

Its all upto u being a man i think i would feel pretty broken if u didnt give me a chance......................(I mean if i was in his place.........I wish i was :wink : hahaha j/k. no i am not nah j/k

no i am not hahah j/k

Jeff Miller · **Sun May 02, 2004 9:22 am**

I dunno what to say because to be frank you dunno from one minute to the next what you are one time Im talking to you, your with some woman now your attracted to a guy? pick a side and stay on it.... sorry can't help.

Puck · The Texan Joined: 05 Jan 2004 Posts: 5596

She asked for help, not critisism!

And since you obviously didn't have any advice except to "pick a side, and stay on it" which was one of the rudest things I have heard, then there is no reason for you to post in this thread!

Sonic74205 · **Sun May 02, 2004 10:59 am**

there is a possibility that u might be bi
if ur not involved with someone already then i think u should give it a go

and if it doesn't work out that u two can make a joke about and could become good friends, and maybe one day u two might look back and say 'remember the time when u asked me out and i accepted' and he would be like 'yeah i remember, what was i thinking asking you out' and you can just sit there and laugh about it.

You could turn him down and stick to being an les or you could test the boundarys and see if you really like this guy or not

hope this helps

harrykims#1fan · **Sun May 02, 2004 11:06 am**

Go with your gut instinct...even if you don't persue anything with him he's still going to be your friend

Sonic74205 · **Sun May 02, 2004 11:07 am**

u know, i was just thinking about it and that has acctually happened to me before,

it was last august, and i had known that i was gay for about 2 months then but i hadent told anyone. One of my friends (girl) asked me out and after a while, i accepted thought that if i would go out with her and see if it suits me. Then i might be straight or bi. It turns out that i was gay, it just didn't seem right and i just couldn't bring myself to kiss her. So i broke up with her and then after a while i addmitted to all of my friends that i was gay and i am better friends with her now than i have EVER been

Starbuck · **Sun May 02, 2004 11:54 am**

It won't hurt to give him a chance. The worst that could happen is that you don't hit it off, but you can always be friends.

Jeff Miller · **Sun May 02, 2004 11:57 am**

ILoveHarry · Admiral Joined: 14 Jan 2004 Posts: 7909 Location: Houston

Well last time I heard, you were pretty serious about the person you were with at the time. It would be a shame to totally sacrafice that for something that may be a fluke. I'd say just start off haning out as friends and see what happens. Life has a way of working itself out. Whatever is meant to happen will just naturally come about when the time is right.

Love ya, and good luck. Bottom line, make yourself happy.

Melodramatic · Rear Admiral Joined: 04 Feb 2003 Posts: 4577

It wouldn't hurt to give him a chance...you may fall for him is what I voted for and I truley think thats best for now. But if you start to get uncomfortible then just tell him you didn't think it was such a good idea.. and end it there... and ask to still be friends if you still like him after that.

PrankishSmart · **Sun May 02, 2004 10:05 pm**

Maybe he is just intrested in a 3some with you and your other woman friend?

Apart from that, I don't know what you should do. I can't run peoples lives for them.

janeway9 · **Mon May 03, 2004 12:29 am**

Leo Wyatt · **Mon May 03, 2004 5:05 am**

Follow your heart. And what you think is right.

captin jayneway · **Fri May 07, 2004 7:36 am**

just give him a chance u never know u might fall for him and bigin a loving relationship

janeway9 · **Sat May 08, 2004 11:34 pm**

Well I did what all of you said and I followed my Heart. We spent all day together when he go off work watching movies and cuddling.... I am starting to think maybe God sent him to me now for a reason b/c everyone I know knew him but me....Maybe he is what God had instore to give me back since everything was taken from me and all the stuff I have been through...maybe he is my reward for holding on like I have. He's perfect. I'm glad I did follow my gut for once. And you guys helped me not to ignore it like i probably would have. Thanx to all of you.

Link, the Hero of Time · **Sat May 08, 2004 11:40 pm**

Good for you Fran.

Good luck to the both of you

Puck · The Texan Joined: 05 Jan 2004 Posts: 5596

^^I really do hope that he is what God has had in store for you. I hope it works out for the best, you really deserve the best. Anyhow good for you and I wish yall the best of luck.

Leo Wyatt · **Sun May 09, 2004 4:13 am**

Good luck .

John Connor · **Sun May 09, 2004 10:44 am**

I think u should be friends with him and dont go any farther. Thats what i think.