I need help

[Starbuck]

A little over a month ago, one of my best and truest friends ended his life. Since then I haven't really been sure how to handle things. Out of all of my friends I would have never thought him. I always thought he would have stuck around simply out of curiosity. He once told me I would make the perfect Psychologist, because I was always full of advice and a good listener. Ever since then I can't help anyone, least of all myself. And I don't know what to do anymore, its still very surreal. I'm forever waiting for someone to say "haha ... just wanted to see your reaction", but its never going to happen. I just need some advice and since I feel about some of you like you're my extended family, I mean, I've been on this board since I was 13. Any advice anyone could offer would be amazing. Thank you in advance.

[harrykims#1fan]

Firstly, i can't imagine how you must be feeling right now so I'm not gonna pretend i do i'm just gonna tell you what i'd do and i'll let you make your own judgement.

Secondly: when you lose someone that's close to you it's always hard but harsh as it seems life goes on don't dwell on the loss, (i'm not saying don't mourn just dont dwell on it as it makes things harder) celebrate the life he had think of the happier times, because as long as the person is remembered they'll always be part of you. Also I find talking about how i feel with my friends is a good thing find someone who you know will listen to you and be there for you.

Hope it helps

Kez

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[Sonic74205]

Unfortunatly i have never been through what you are going through at the moment. However i am training to become a counceller. I already have some of my qualifications and like you i have always been considered a listener and have wanted to go into this field for a long time now. All i can say is that try and focus on the happy memories you have of him. I would say its not his death you should be focusing on, but rather his life. You have been through something very hard and challenging, yet...your still here. It appears to me you are a strong person. Personally this is not what i believe but my partner believes "everything happens for a reason". Perhaps in this case for you its true.

I'm always here to listen

[robbiewebster]

I don't know what to say, it's really tough. I've lost two friends because of drunk drivers in the last year. It's soo hard. All I can say is that I'll be praying for you and that there's a lot of people here who care about you.

[Starbuck]

Thanks guys. It means a lot. Everyone says that this is just one of the bigger parts of "growing up", but I think its a cruel kind of introduction the the "real" world.

[Lt. Saavik]

My heart is aching for you. All I can tell you is this, even though I realize it's pretty hard to actually do: try not to think about your pain, but be grateful for the time you had been given to spend with this person. You have loved him, and you still do, and that means that he had very good qualities, which made him worthy of people's love. You have been very lucky, since now, a part of your friend still lives in you. Try to think about it, maybe it will make you feel better. You're not alone.

[Captain Dappet]

Well...I'm not too good with this kind of *beep*, but...yeh...I'm really sorry to hear that, I'm sure you'll come through alright, though.

[L'ursa]

In such moments there is no right thing to say. There's no general advice that'd always fit the situation.
The two most important things have already been said here:
Don't let it bring you down completely.
Remember that you have friends here who care for you.

All I can add is: if you feel like talking about it, if you need a friend or just someone to listen, don't hesitate to contact me. Depending on how far away from me you live it might take a few hours for me to reply, but reply I will.