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magenta Commander
Joined: 24 May 2005 Posts: 404 Location: AUSTRALIA
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Wed Nov 09, 2005 9:58 pm What is the best AGE to have kids? |
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I was 31 when I had my son Julian and 33 when I had B'lanna.I couldnt have imagined myself having them any younger.Too many wild oats to sow!Anyone else?
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Republican_Man STV's Premier Conservative
Joined: 26 Mar 2004 Posts: 14823 Location: Classified
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Wed Nov 09, 2005 10:01 pm |
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Whoa. I think that's a bit to much Trek in your naming of your kids, especially B'lanna.
My mom had me when she was 25. I think that's a good age, if you're mature enough and able to provide for the kids.
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Arellia The Quiet One
Joined: 23 Jan 2003 Posts: 4425 Location: Dallas, TX
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Wed Nov 09, 2005 10:04 pm |
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I'm really very attracted to never.
...but if so...sometime in one's twenties. One's body is better able to cope with it, and the baby generally does better too.
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IntrepidIsMe Pimp Handed
Joined: 14 Jun 2002 Posts: 13057 Location: New York
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Wed Nov 09, 2005 10:04 pm |
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Any age at which you are mature enough to handle children, and stable enough to provide for them.
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LightningBoy Commodore
Joined: 09 Mar 2003 Posts: 1446 Location: Minnesota, U.S.A.
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 12:30 am |
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As soon as you're married and ready. I really can't wait to settle down some day, find the right girl, and have kids. I'm really sick of being between ages 18 and 25, stuck in college and part time jobs. I really just want to get out into the real world.
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Ziyal Captain
Joined: 04 Dec 2002 Posts: 848 Location: Alaska :D
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 1:18 am |
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30 that way youre more settled in life and are generally done with school and crap amongst other reasons such as maturity
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lionhead Rear Admiral
Joined: 26 May 2004 Posts: 4020 Location: The Delta Quadrant (or not...)
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 4:43 am |
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Between 25 and 35. But not a year later. maybe a year sooner can, but not recommended.
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Birdy Socialist
Joined: 20 Sep 2004 Posts: 13502 Location: Here.
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 4:58 am |
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I don't think that age really matters, I think it matters if you're ready for them. If you're not ready, you can't give them all the love and support they need, and I think that's worse.
I think I wouldn't wanna have kids when I'm 40 or older. I think I want to have them when I'm like 25 or something.
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Brightstar82 Rear Admiral
Joined: 08 Apr 2005 Posts: 4394 Location: A Borg Cube....Where Else?
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 7:44 am |
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Id say it all depends on when the person feels ready for kids. Myself Im going to wait till im financialy stabal and such so id probably be in my mid to late twenties
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Leo Wyatt Sweetest Angel
Joined: 25 Feb 2004 Posts: 19045 Location: Investigating A Crime Scene. What did Quark do this time?
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 8:22 am |
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I had my first born when I was 18. Then, I had my second son when I was 22. Last I had my last child my daughter at age 24. I was married before I had my first son. I didn't believe in sex before marriage nor did Charlie. We was fiancially set.
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Seven of Nine Sammie's Mammy
Joined: 16 Jun 2001 Posts: 7871 Location: North East England
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Thu Nov 10, 2005 9:23 am |
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When you're ready for the responsibility. I had Sammie at 17... it's a big responsibility, but in a way I was already ready, since I'd been looking after my siblings between 13-16, and it was much easier than that! She's a toddler now, and even though it can be hard, I think I'm doing ok looking after her.
If I could turn back time, would I have Sammie again, at 17? Yes. I'd just not make the mistake of speaking to my mother afterwards!
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madlilnerd Duchess of Dancemat
Joined: 03 Aug 2004 Posts: 5885 Location: Slough, England
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Wed Nov 16, 2005 3:58 pm |
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Scientifically? Between the ages of 15 (or whenever you reach full sexual maturity) and 35 is considered the prime of fornification, because that's when your reproductive organs are at their best. New research says that the later you leave having kids, the more likely the child is to have brain problems. Someone told me that having a child after the age of 43 leaves a 1 in 10 chance that they'll have down syndrome, but I don't know if that's true.
I would be quite happy to have children now, and several people have told me they think I would make a good mother, but before I have kids, I would like to offer them some fiancial security so that they can have a really good childhood. I don't want to be a millionnaire or anything, just settle down with a man I love (most likely married) and make sure we're in a good situation to have kids.
What really matters is how much you love and look after your children anyway. Some people make good young parents. Some don't.
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magenta Commander
Joined: 24 May 2005 Posts: 404 Location: AUSTRALIA
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Thu Nov 17, 2005 4:50 am |
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The most important thing is if you have the right partner/wife/husband etc...I waited til I was at least 30,all the party stuff out,had met the right guy.We had been together for 3years,living together for most of that time.So we knew each other very well,not exactly financially stable.
If you have met the right person,dont wait too long,its never the right time financially!
IVF programs dont always work,they cost heaps,cost heaps emotionally.Personally 30 was a great age for me to have kids!
I would not be a single mother for no amount of money in the world!Or a teenage one,I know I wouldnt have handled it.
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Captain Dappet Forum Revolutionist
Joined: 06 Feb 2002 Posts: 16756 Location: On my supersonic rocket ship.
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Thu Nov 17, 2005 12:36 pm |
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There is no good age to have kids.
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LightningBoy Commodore
Joined: 09 Mar 2003 Posts: 1446 Location: Minnesota, U.S.A.
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Thu Nov 17, 2005 12:38 pm |
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madlilnerd wrote: | Scientifically? Between the ages of 15 (or whenever you reach full sexual maturity) and 35 |
Darn, my mom was 36!
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borgslayer Rear Admiral
Joined: 27 Aug 2003 Posts: 2646 Location: Las Vegas
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Thu Nov 17, 2005 11:29 pm |
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Mid 20s or later
25 to 30 years old.
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Theresa Lux Mihi Deus
Joined: 17 Jun 2001 Posts: 27256 Location: United States of America
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Fri Nov 18, 2005 11:07 am |
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Captain Dappet wrote: | There is no good age to have kids. |
^Exactly.
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Tuvok8917 Dutchie
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 4205 Location: On my way back home
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Fri Nov 18, 2005 11:11 am |
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Captain Dappet wrote: | There is no good age to have kids. |
I soooooooooo agree
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Cathexis The Angel of Avalon
Joined: 26 Dec 2001 Posts: 5901 Location: ~~ Where Dreams Have No End�
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Sat Nov 19, 2005 2:36 am |
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IntrepidIsMe wrote: | Any age at which you are mature enough to handle children, and stable enough to provide for them. |
Yes, but what if you are mature enough to handle life WITHOUT children? Eh? Eh?
Well..anyway, I agree lol.
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Cathexis The Angel of Avalon
Joined: 26 Dec 2001 Posts: 5901 Location: ~~ Where Dreams Have No End�
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Sat Nov 19, 2005 2:37 am |
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Leo Wyatt wrote: | I had my first born when I was 18. Then, I had my second son when I was 22. Last I had my last child my daughter at age 24. I was married before I had my first son. I didn't believe in sex before marriage nor did Charlie. We was fiancially set. |
Good on ya, mate!
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