Question

Jeff Miller · **Tue May 11, 2004 3:13 pm Question**

I watched the news today and like normal J-Lo is now engaged to someone else after just dumping another person. I also remember afew months ago that Britney Spears married and divorced the next day one of the quickest marriages ever. My question is if someone gets married or engaged than less than a year later should there be a restriction on when they can get married or engaged again? Say if J-lo dumps this person should she be restriced on getting engaged till say 5 years from the day the person was dumped? and the same goes for if a person marrys than divorces 5 years but the more they do it the longer they are restricted.

Jeff Miller · **Tue May 11, 2004 3:14 pm**

I think there should be a restriction period that way people realize that you can't just engage and marry over and over.

Theresa · **Tue May 11, 2004 3:20 pm**

I definitely think that people need to take marriage a whole lot more seriously than they currently do, that's for sure. For some people, it's just a peice of paper, they've forgotten what the sanctity of marriage really means.

Leo Wyatt · **Tue May 11, 2004 3:28 pm**

I agree with Theresa on this one. People need to know if that person is the right one and make sure they want to spend the rest of their lives with that person. If they dont think the person is right then they should not get married and wait til the right person comes along.

Ok I am old fashion romantic lol

Kate Janeway · **Tue May 11, 2004 8:27 pm**

I also agree with Theresa, but I don't think the public would receive the restriction period very well, even though it would be for their own good.

Mikado · **Tue May 11, 2004 11:34 pm**

No. That's an encroachment on people's liberties and freedoms. And I don't feel you can decide what's best if you haven't been in that kind of situation. If you've ever thought someone was the real thing, and found out later you just couldn't be together. That you started to resent each out, you wouldn't want to be together either.

And there are some people who just CAN'T make it work. And staying together for the children is a terrible thing to do. You make your children worse off by fighting all the time.

And if you're in an abusive marriage you have the right to get out and find someone new. Someone who will treat you better.

Leo Wyatt · **Wed May 12, 2004 1:22 am**

I married when I was 17 and Charlie was 21. I knew he was the one. We been together 11 going on 12 June 28. We had our share of fights but we love each other enough to stay. We have kids. most marriages fall apart, is because well I don't want to bring it up for those who are christian knows what I am talking about.

Charlie and I will be together forever. Some marriages don't survive cause some are not willing to work at it.

PrankishSmart · **Wed May 12, 2004 2:25 am**

Leo Wyatt · **Wed May 12, 2004 5:50 am**

Guess you gonna be shocked at me. I married Charlie after dating him two months. But hey thats just me. People should wait a long time before they marry to see if it is the right time.

I can't believe I lasted this long.

Oliver · **Wed May 12, 2004 7:31 am**

No, there shouldn't be any restriction. If a person wants to get married 100 times in his or her lifetime, well, that's their choice. Maybe I would like to see that the marriage cost would become more expensive when you marry more often... somethig like that. This might discourage people to marry many times. But a restriction: no.

I agree with some of you who way that people should be a lot more serious about getting married. It's not something you decide quickly...

Josi Rockholt · **Wed May 12, 2004 8:56 am**

I'd have to agree that people should take marriage more seriously. People that just get married on a bet or dare, don't deserve to get married for awhile.

PrankishSmart · **Wed May 12, 2004 11:07 am**

Kate Janeway · **Wed May 12, 2004 9:52 pm**

I could care less about them, really. The only problem is, because they're celebrities, they set examples for the kids who are their fans (the adults should know better, so I'm not including them). Their actions may encourage this irrational behavior and further the problem.

Lt. Commander Warwick · **Thu May 13, 2004 12:33 am**

Vortex · **Thu May 13, 2004 10:34 am**

So in other words most of you see marriage as a commitment to being chained up. If both are unhappy, there should be no legal interferance to break up. If you love eachother enough, it shouldn't matter if you're married or not. Marriage should then be an honor you create towards your partner. To put her in a special position, but hell no, no chains!

Theresa · **Thu May 13, 2004 10:43 am**

You see marriage as chains? Odd, most see it as a commitment... Not everything in life worth having comes easy. As in any situation with more than one person, there will be conflict, but marriage reminds you that some things are worth fighting for. My parents have been married for nearly thirty years. They made a commitment to be monogomous, and to love and honor each other. Not to become "chained" to each other. Sure, if things had gotten really bad, they could have seperated, but that's just common sense.
Again, marriage is meant to be a commitment, to show your devotion to your significant other, not to chain them down.

Anyway, I think the main point Jeff is trying to make is that marriage is taken way too lightly these days. Things get rough, people run.

Vortex · **Thu May 13, 2004 10:57 am**

In other words, you need a commitment from your partner to know he loves you?

If you wish to get married in my eyes, do it for the right reasons. Nothing is going to stop a breakup anyway, if the situation does occur. Love is something that comes.

Marriage should be as an ode to your partner, an act of respect. But absolutely not to tie a person down. If I want commitment, I'll get a dog.

Theresa · **Thu May 13, 2004 10:59 am**

It appears that you do not understand, so any further reply would be a waste of both our time,

Vortex · **Thu May 13, 2004 1:13 pm**

Very true.

Seven of Nine · **Fri May 14, 2004 4:20 am**

Marriage should be for life in most cases, but there are circumstances where divorce is the better option, for example in cases of domestic violence. In today's society it's mostly acceptable to co-habit, like Johny and I are. If you're not certain they're the one, don't get married! You find out a lot about a person from living with them.