What would you do..need help

janeway9 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 1:45 am What would you do..need help**

Okay, I met this girl online, she's great and we fell for each other. She is coming here to be with me in a little over a year once she gets all the things straight to. But about a month ago she introduced me to one of her online friends. (we'll call the one I first met girl A and her friend girl B) Me and this girl hit it off fast b/c we are alot alike and have gone through the same things and understand what each other feels.(When me and girlb talke a I get a glow in me...I feel happy she can make me smile with out trying and even if i'm in one of my worest moods she can...I drive myself crazy when I'm not talking to her) In the last few days my thoughts of girlB have replaced those which once was about the other girlA. I told girlB tonight and it turns out that she feels the same. I now feel like what I felt for her friend was not what I thought it was. I'm not in love with her like I first thought...I am with girlB. It just hit me like a bullet. We both are so confused as to what to do. We both care about Girl A and really don't want to hurt her but we know if she finds out she will hate us both. I will feel even worse b/c I will be the one resposible for messing up their friendship. I don't want to hurt either of them. But I know I'm not inlove with GirlA like i thought I was but I do care for her. I am in love with Girl B. Why is love so confusing and so messed up. Why does it just hit you like this. I need some advice on this what should I do...or what should me and this girl do??? Please help me out here...you guys are all I have left to turn to.

Cathexis · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 1:58 am**

Fran: FOLLOW YOUR HEART

Dirt · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 4:05 am**

Tell her the truth, anything else wouldn't be fair to her and would probaly hurt even worse. You'd do that if you really care about her.

Theresa · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 8:40 am**

^I'm with him. She may get very angry now, but she'll see that it was the better thing to do. You've already taken one step to not living a lie, don't put yourself back in that situation.

Josi Rockholt · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 9:03 am**

I actually agree with Dirt on this. If you don't tell her and she finds out,it would just make things worse. She might be hurt at first,but she should get over it over time.

Cathexis · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 11:53 am**

Also: Fran...no matter how much you and girl B know it's gonna hurt Girl A...you should probably tell her how it is with you and girl B....if you care about girl a...tell her the truth...I definitely agree with Dirt...

sabertooth1217 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 12:07 pm**

Meet a person in real life... justa thought and do what your first instaint tells you to follow

janeway9 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 12:51 pm**

All the same. Thanx guys, when she gets on again tonight me and her will talk about how to brake it to girl A. Your right we should tell her now before it gets any worse and or she finds out alone.

Kyre · Commodore Joined: 15 Mar 2002 Posts: 1263

Internet love? What's next, garlic bread? But seriously, I find it hard to believe you could have fallen in love with two people you've met online. It's a very fine line between love and lust, I've been confused before too.

I think you're in for a shock when you finally meet. But good luck with it anyway.

janeway9 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 2:46 pm**

No its not just online...we have talked on the phone and wrote letters it not just an online thing and believe me its not Lust either...I know the difference.

Sam Kenobi · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:02 pm**

Well, I'm going to have to be the bad guy and go against everyone else. I would say repress it. All of it. Unrequited love may be the best kind, but it will often be our worst enemy and hardest downfall. I wouldn't let the rose-colored glasses keep you from seeing other truths. Though the truth you see may actually be there, there are also others that you don't know you are compromising. But... yeah. Bad situation. That's just my opinion. Wish you the best of luck

janeway9 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:32 pm**

Thanx...I guess love is just too complecated

Captain Dappet · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:39 pm**

Not too complicated. Only complicated. Or, very bloody complicated.

If you ever figure out how it works, please share it with the rest of us.

janeway9 · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 3:40 pm**

Josi Rockholt · **Tue Jan 27, 2004 4:04 pm**

Oh,and good luck.

janeway9 · **Thu Jan 29, 2004 11:38 pm**

Well I told her and GirlB told her the truth today...she suspected it...and understands is hurt but understands...